From The Love Dare:
… you must take the view that instead of following your heart, you are choosing to lead it. The world says to follow your heart, but if you are not leading it, then someone or something else is. The Bible says that “the heart is more deceitful than all else” (Jeremiah 17:9), and it will always pursue that which feels right at the moment.
My wife and I are taking the dare… The Love Dare. It will be a challenge I am reading, but I think it will be well worth enduring. I encourage you to do the same in your marriage.